With the underlying assumption that we are inadequate or inferior to our peers, we are continually striving to reinvent ourselves. But oftentimes, the obsession with correcting our imperfections can become self-destructive. Ahead, we share five ways on how to embrace your quirkiness and love what makes you unique.
#1 Positive Vibes Only
As Amir Motahari (of Elite Daily) puts it so eloquently, “We are all reflections of the people we keep in our lives and interact with on a daily basis” Bearing that in mind, it’s not difficult to understand why we need to get rid of all the negative influences in our life. What good is there if you keep spending time with people who constantly pick out your flaws and use them to put you down? Associating yourself with abusive people will only mean that you’re abusing yourself. Instead, only spend time with people who aren’t judgemental. Build a tribe of friends who are supportive, caring and accept you for who you are – eventually, their positivity will rub off on you and you’ll learn to see your “flaws” in a new light.
#2 Turn The Tables On Negativity
It’s no secret that trying to accept your quirks is a tough task, but the next time you’re thinking of giving up, try changing your brain filter instead. Meaning that instead of focusing on the negativity of your traits, see what positives they bring. For example: if someone has called you out for being quiet and reserved, realise that how, on the flip side, those characteristics make you an excellent listener and allows you to establish meaningful connections with people you interact with. It’s easy to beat yourself up and give in to the bad thoughts, but always remind yourself that there is a greater positive within every negative situation.
#3 Your Imperfections Are What Make You Human
First things first, let’s add a new word to your dictionary: flawsome. Coined by resident “smize-queen” Tyra Banks, the term is used to describe a person who is awesome because of their flaws. Secondly, we all know of or have come across a person who seems like they’ve gotten their life together, but do you remember how insincere and fake their overall demeanour felt? After all, no one is that completely put-together! Our kinks are what make us that much more real and it is also what allows us to connect with others on a more personal level. Never be ashamed of the things that make you, you. Work those quirks, embrace your inner #flawsome, and you’ll find yourself exuding an air of confidence that others will find inspiring.
#4 Help Yourself By Helping Others
Do you remember how good it felt to help someone through a rough patch in their life? Similarly, your imperfections can help others too! Everyone has some sort of shortcoming that they are unhappy with, so chances are that you’ll be able to find someone who is struggling with accepting the same flaws you are. Reach out to them, share with them your story and your struggles, and in return, encourage them to share their experiences with you. Not only will you help them become kinder to themselves, but discussing the issue with someone else might also allow you to explore different options to loving your flaws, ones that you might not have considered before.
#5 Work With What You Have
Our mind is a wondrous thing, but it can sometimes be the victim of over-exaggeration. For one day at a time, make one of your flaws the forefront of your day and see what happens. More often than not, the things we dislike about ourselves are actually just blown up to be so much more terrible in our minds than it actually is in reality. Take Lady Gaga for example. When faced with criticism of her weight gain, she responded by launching a “Body Revolution”, posting pictures of herself in a bra and underwear and encouraging others to do the same. The singer wrote, “May we make our flaws famous, and thus redefine the heinous” – making the perceived flaw of a rounder tummy empowering and above all else, normal. May our Mother Monster continue to be as inspirational as ever.